Almost everyone has experienced this unfortunate situation, and I still doubt those who say they have never experienced anything like it.
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You've met this girl, and you've fallen for her, but it's not a one night stand thing, you've really gotten interested, you've talked and invested some time, but when it comes down to it, she doesn't want to be with you.
Not every woman is going to like us no matter how handsome, nice, cool, or caring we are. Patience.
But what to do with all the "time spent" on that girl?
Swallow your pride, accept the friendzone - I hate that term - and pursue a friendship? Keep on flirting with her knowing it may never come to anything? Or just walk away and pretend you were never interested in that woman?
It all depends on your maturity and the feeling you have for that person.
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You never know what tomorrow will be like; could she wake up and have a realization that you are the man in her life? It happens. However, you need to respect her choice or you run the risk that she will walk away from you.
It won't do you any good to keep dragging your feet and investing your chips in a game that is lost. It will leave you with low self-esteem and take away time that you could be investing in yourself or in other girls.
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If you leave
Maybe it's the most obvious option for the cold-hearted guys who don't let themselves get involved.Okay, you're right.Good luck with the next one.But this can also be the most painful alternative for the guys who really like the woman.But that's part of it.
Life is made of cycles and sometimes you will be responsible for ending some of them. The ideal is to act in the most mature way possible. Take a retrospective look at the situation. Think about where you got it right or wrong, and how you can evolve afterwards.
Speaking of maturity, remember that you will probably meet that girl at other times in your life. Try not to ignore her or look her in the face. This is the attitude of children and assholes. You don't have to stick around, but this is no excuse for becoming a complete asshole.
And walking away also doesn't give you the excuse to be rude, stupid or utter curses at her. It just shows that you are a spoiled brat who doesn't know how to admit your defeats.
If you agree to stay
You have decided to stay, there is nothing wrong with that. But you have to understand that there is no point in knocking on a knife's edge. Respect her wishes and act as a friend.
Maybe you guys will build a nice friendship and laugh about it in the future.Maybe.But keep in mind that you will have to face things like seeing her being with other guys, and if you accept the role of friend, you will have to take your responsibility and listen to her talk about issues that might hurt you.
I believe that every good relationship between a couple is established from a friendship. There can be no dating or marriage if both parties do not like each other and are companions as friends. But sometimes, being friends is the most a man and a woman can go.
Take advantage of your female friend and try to listen and pay attention to a worldview different from yours. Find out what she thinks about love, sex, work, money...
Living with women can give you a better insight into them. It may even help you in your next conquest. Who knows? In any case, you will have a pleasant company to have a beer with whenever possible.
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Sometimes what we really need is a good slap in the face to wake up to life.
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